2 Foolproof Ways For Getting Unstuck FAST!

2 Foolproof Ways For Getting Unstuck FAST!

2 Foolproof Ways For Getting Unstuck….

In my Private Facebook Community “Secret Coaches Business” I often run free challenges and workshops and by far ones with the most engagement always revolve around getting unstuck.

It’s a popular topic!

I’m convinced that the way of the coach / entrepreneur resembles something like this…..

IDEA!!!! :-)))) > Action > Varied result > STUCK

Sometimes its the big kinda stuck where major unstuck type of activity is called for with much deeper questioning and pondering required.

But other times it’s the naggging…I’m spending WAAA-HAY-HAY too much time on FB doing NADA kinda stuck.

This is the kind of stuck where you know where you’re going but can’t seem to find the inspiration to move forward in any prolific way.

Either way both of these actions work.

The first is to get yourself a coach / mentor, even if it’s for only 1 session.

A coach brings clarity of distance (we’re not as close to your stuff as you are), they pick up on the unspoken and challenge you to give yourself permission to really go for what you want most in life.

Plus they see around corners, we’ve been there, done that and can often pre-empt any unforeseen challenges, saving you time, heartache and often a shizload of $$$$

The second is to remove yourself from your regular environment.

Head somewhere super high-end and fabulous.

Soak up the opulence, the elegance, the LUXURY.

You cannot help but be inspired in an inspiring environment.

You cannot help but EXPAND your thinking in up-levelled environment.

You don’t need to sell a kidney for a room at The Ritz, head to your closest uber expensive hotel or casino and sit in a bar, order a glass of bubbles and watch the magic happen.

I have a super popular blog post on how I do my New Year Planning in style…keep an eye out as I’ll be sharing the updated version sometime in late November.

But I digress….

Honestly, nothing expands your thinking like stepping into the life you want, if only for a moment.

Whenever I run any events and back when I used to run my Live Masterminds I ALWAYS chose stunning venues.

Every single time I stay somewhere fabulous magic happens.

My thinking expands, what once seemed beyond my wildest dreams suddenly seems mundane.

Tip: Don’t create a bunch of rules around “when” the right time is to take action on these two things…if you’re stuck NOW is the time.

Schedule them in your diary over the next 7 days and then get your ass moving…you’ll wish you’d done it sooner.

Excuses or reasons surfacing already?

My advice??


All of my wins have come from a moment of courage, a single moment of courage where I’m called to act on an inspired idea, an inspired thought…

NEVER have I regretted my leaps, they’ve always netted me something truly amazing…my next step up, my next win, my next up-level.

To make it easy for you to hire a mentor / coach I have an offer for you at the bottom of this blog but to finish….you want success right??

Throw EVERYTHING at it, every-single-thing…and make it happen.

Without action, the life I have created for myself would still be a dream.

Without action, this life I lead would have remained in the future.

If your time is now it’s time to take the leap…before you accidentally settle for mediocre.

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The Art Of Not F@#king Up Your Hard-Earned Success.

The Art Of Not F@#king Up Your Hard-Earned Success.

The Art Of Not F@#king Up Your Hard-Earned Success….

Here’s the thing no-one tells you about success.

When it arrives it brings with it a can of worms you’re unprepared for.

Sure, there’s the momentary euphoria of having “made it”, of having finally achieved what you’d been working so hard to achieve but far too often the feeling of euphoria short lived.

Despite the many hours you’ve probably spent imagining your success when it hits sometimes it can take a little while for everything else to catch up. I guess it’s not too dissimilar to someone who’s had lap band surgery without the psychological counselling required to come to grips with the fact that EVERYTHING surrounding their relationship with food has to change including socially (a friend told me the story of a relative of hers who blended her entire Christmas Day meal into a smoothie and freaked everyone out as she sat at the table drinking it though a straw),

Had they been prepared psychologically for the change I’m sure adjustment and acceptance would have been less traumatic.

Don’t get me wrong I am NOT for a second suggesting success is traumatic, in fact it’s the most amazing feeling in the world.

At the guts of it what I want to tell you is that success doesn’t automatically correct your mental and emotional crap, in fact it can make it scream louder for a time because the risk to what you have is now greater than it was before.

Another analogy (stay with me) is bodybuilding, I recently attended a training camp with World Champ Nicole Wilkins and she voiced what I already knew to be true, if anyone takes on the challenge of getting on stage because they think it will “fix” the relationship they have with their body or food or whatever brand of battle it is they’re fighting, they’re sadly mistaken, the mental and emotional crap is tamed (maybe) in the lead up to being on stage but the minute they step off stage and are able to hydrate and eat (and their immediately loses it’s stage magnificence) the mental battle begins in earnest.

It’s the same with success.

It won’t fix your crap.

But the awesome news is that it forces you to deal with said crap because (again) the risks are higher than ever before, if you don’t fix what you need to fix NOW you can watch your gains slip away.

After a particuarly trying time a few years ago I reflected on what was revealed to be a pattern that accompanies my successes (one you may only begin to recognise) and it goes like this.


Like any cycle, this one has triggers and warning signs I’m now aware of, there’s zero guarantee this cycle won’t repeat itself but knowing it exists already has me fired up and ready to face it head on if or when it arises, in fact I can’t wait to test my approach for dealing with it.

Here’s what this cycle looks like in a bit more detail…


The leap is where you’ve created your vision, set yourself a goal and you’ve launched yourself into action.

This is where you’re making shit happen on a grand scale and excitement is high.


The double edged sword, freaking AWESOME because you’ve finally achieved the very thing you’ve been working so hard to achieve but crappy because it’s (or can be) the trigger for the shitty phase to follow.


This is where the shit hits the fan.

Success is like a drug that is soooo highly addictive, we become addicted to the high of winning and in the times between the chase and the wins, in the downtime, this is where our crap surfaces….usually always self-worth stuff or some version of it.

I feel most alive when I’m experiencing the thrill of the chase, when I’ve trusted my gut, followed my instincts and I’m seeing the first signs that it’s going to pay off.

When the win comes it’s euphoric…heady stuff and there is no high like it but with any high comes the low.

The adrenaline rush of success gives way to “what now?” and if you don’t catch it here it can spiral into living in your head and spending way too much time aimlessly trawling through Social Media looking for the meaning of life.

Integration is where the crap surfaces but it’s here where we deal with our crap and come out the other side, weary, beaten up but stronger and wiser than ever before.

The other side of this is the real win.


Whenever we’ve been to hell and back it forces us to re-evaluate who we are, how we do things and what we really want our lives to look like for the next leg of the journey.

Recently a girlfriend reminded me of my “irritants” philosophy which basically means I decide to audit and clean up my life of all the things that are pissing me off.

Basically I list up all of the things in my life that are irritating (and distracting) me and then set about the process of eliminating every single one of them.

Some things you can’t eliminate entirely (like an errant family member) but you can eliminate your response to them.

In life things pile on top of us one after the other and when we’re busy instead of rejecting the things that annoy us we absorb them and before we know it we’re weighed down by a pile of crap, often lots of small things that have gone unnoticed.

For me recently one small thing was I joined a gym when I moved and I don’t like it, every day I went (or didn’t) it pissed me off and I was putting up with it.

After that one line from my friend it dawned on me that I’d let the “irritants’ pile up.

The same day I went and signed up at a different gym and I’ve been loving it!

I call this an irritants list because it’s not big stuff, usually we’re forced or called to deal with the big stuff but the small stuff, the small irritating stuff, can pile up.

The times after I work though this are when I feel the clearest, most aligned and at ease with where I’m taking my life and my business.

Its a powerful tool, a life “de-clutter” I guess you could call it.


This is visioning, goal setting and deciding on the next course of action given everything that’s been thrown up in the last few phases.

This is where I can feel my pulse return, my energy lift and the excitement build in my belly

These days I keep things reigned in at this stage so I don’t run off half cocked, I’ve forcibly inserted the next step to ensure I don’t go too deep down a rabbit hole that will ultimately take me no-where.


This is where I let myself go nuts and get excited.

One of the greatest assets an entrepreneur can possess is self-awareness, knowing yourself and what makes you tick is critical at this stage.

Knowing your strengths and the things that will trip you up will mean you can tap into whether or not this decision is right for you right now.

Alignment for me looks like values work, journalling, journalling and more journalling, setting new crystal clear goals and deciding the how…how I’m going to get from A to Z while fully enjoying the process.

Ease, Hustle, Fun and Adventure are all key components of alignment for me.


This is where the rubber meets the road and I’m off and racing again.

I create MASSIVE action and momentum that propels me deep into the process, so far into the process that there’s no turning back.

This is the thrill of the chase with the anticipation of success.

I’d be lying if I said this wasn’t my favourite part.

So there you have it, what I call my success cycle with the good, the bad and the ugly bits.

Writing this was awesome, deciding to hit publish of course made me ponder “what if I’m the only one who experiences this??!!, god I’ll look like a whack job!!!!”, however I know from countless conversations with my peers and with my clients that most women experience some version of this around success so I’ll take one for the team and put it out there hoping it helps bring some understanding to your own struggles whether they be in the past, one your experiencing now or so you can tuck it away in the memory bank in case you ever need it.

This probably goes without saying but this is in no way a reason to avoid great success, the growth and wisdom gained is well worth the frustration and it will serve you to go again, bigger, better and badder than ever before.

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5 Lessons I Learned Taking My Coaching Business To The Next Level

5 Lessons I Learned Taking My Coaching Business To The Next Level


5 Lessons I Learned Taking My Coaching Business To The Next Level….

*This is a post I orignally wrote in early 2016 as I was on my way to Sydney to run a day event….I had 3 women sign on to the Sydney Mastermind*

Deciding to step away from the Honourable Martial Arts Entrepreneur brand I’d lovingly created (and felt immense pride in) in favour of launching myself into the unchartered waters of launching a high-end mastermind in the female entrepreneur (My $25K Live Mastermind) was a huge leap of faith but every cell in my body screamed “you have to do this”….and so I did.

What lay before me was definitely something I’d dreamed of (and my gut told me was possible) but as most of us are, I’m a highly optimistic entrepreneur and in my lifetime had set MANY epic goals that didn’t quite come to fruition the way I’d planned; at gut level I “believed” but there was also a huge element of SHOW ME THE MONEY. The proof of success in business is not in the pudding but in bringing in the big bucks….I was on the cusp and dying to see if I could pull this off and make it happen.

As I begin this post I’m sitting on the airstrip at Melbourne Airport waiting to fly to Sydney to launch my mastermind in Sydney.

I’m excited but I’d be lying if I said I was fearless in the face of this launch, you just never know what you’re going to get until you try so on the eve of my launch I’m confident, my gut is happy and I feel good about this next step in my business.

However…..I have a Plan B, C D and, well as many plans as I need to make this thing a success (whatever that turns out to be in this instance).

From the outside looking in the success of others always looks easy but we’re both smart enough to know that this is simply the highlight reel and that behind the shine a battle of epic proportions has been fought and won.

(At this point I’m checked into my suite at the Sangri-La (DIVINE) and I’m now sitting at The Waterfront tapping away with the Opera House and Harbour Bridge as my backdrop, the sky is blue and the sun is out in full force – perfection!!).

As I sit here soaking up the view and feeling more alive than I’ve felt in weeks (a whole other blog) I feel this is the perfect time to revisit some of the lessons I learned doing EXACTLY what I’m doing now.

Taking a risk.

Testing the untested.

Once again attempting to take my business to the next level.

LESSON 1 – There is no “I’ve made it” moment.

Ok so I may have had a split second moment of “I’ve made it” when I shot THIS video on the day I kicked off my first mastermind in Melbourne 14 months ago but that was pretty short lived.

That particular program had some teething problems I hadn’t anticipated but even with having to work through all of that I was off and racing towards the next target within weeks.

In my experience the attainment of every desired outcome simply becomes a stepping stone for the next level because as ambitious women we’re always striving, we always want more, there is ALWAYS a next level.

Rather than find myself excited by the prospect of having secured a 6 figure income for the following 12 on months straight out of the gate I got to thinking..wow, ok, if I can do that what else can I do???

The “I’ve made it” moment was nice while it lasted and I treasure the memory but I’m also ok with knowing “the comfort zone” and I are never going to be best mates and I’m built to strive….for the next thing…always.

LESSON 2 – The mental crap you deal with is the same.

I’d love to be able to tell you your mind is transformed when you reach that sought after “next level” but I’d be telling a big fat porky.

It’s the same crap.

I launched my first mastermind with a bang, the 2nd one was 100 times better and I’d found my groove so you’d think that when I decided to launch in Sydney it would be a no brainer right?

WRONG…so very wrong!!

I upper-limited like a mad woman (If you haven’t read The Big Leap by Bay Hendricks go and do it NOW!) and eff’d it up before I’d even started, I postponed dates, gave money back and essentially had a nice little meltdown around the whole idea of “Sydney”.

A-Total-Nightmare and I just couldn’t get over the fact I thought I was past all the fear and self-doubt crap given how far I’d come.

I was wrong….yep, so very wrong.

It look a lot of metaphorical repeated slapping myself around the head before I came to my senses, sucked it up and DECIDED I WAS going to launch Sydney, no if’s, but’s or maybe’s.

Day 1 is sold out and Day 2 is ok, not sold out as I’d hoped but I’m sitting here knowing I did whatever the hell it took to feet the best numbers I could. A win.

A win because I had the balls to try when all I wanted to do was chalk up the $3.5k I’d paid for the venue up to experience and remain in Melbourne.

I’ve let the frustration of the call to “please some to Sydney” then hearing crickets when I did commit to coming to Sydney go and instead I’ve prided myself on making things work.

***UPDATE….Sydney was a dream!! I set the target for 4 women in this mastermind and I already have 3 ladies with another 2 women very keen. This is an exciting group of female entrepreneurs and I’m so excited to kick this off in Sydney on the 19th of this month!!

I’ve already started ads for my next Melbourne campaign and am also looking at venues in Brisbane.

So the lesson here is to make peace with your inner crap, know there’s a good chance it will surface again when you least need it and be prepared to fight the same old battles again and again but with less effort, over time the crap becomes a minor distraction unless you give it too much airtime (as I did!).

BONUS LESSON – Suck every bit of juice out of your momentum.

The update above is a very telling sign of how I work, whenever I experience success I push again while I’m feeling bulletproof and then again and again and again.

Success creates the type of energy we wish we had in our businesses every single day, the setbacks and roadblocks eat into this energy and deplete us if we’re not careful.

It’s critical we remain optimistic but even the best of us are hit by self-doubt at times, when you have a win and you’re sitting on top of the world milk that feeling for all it’s worth, DO NOT sit back and bask in the glow of success until you’ve followed it up with another win and then another win.

Solidify your success by creating more of it and then spend a moment high-fiving yourself before you set your sights on the next success.

I’m speaking from experience here, 2 Melbourne launches close together kept me pumping, I left it too long between that 2nd launch and Sydney and it took it’s toll, had I kept on and followed through with Sydney when I first set the intention I would have avoided a massive head-f@!K and a bad dose of procrastination that set me back 6 months.

Thankfully I’ve made up for lost time and Brisbane will set me ahead (I’d planned Brissy for 2017), this is the power of using momentum.

LESSON 3 – It’s not as hard as I figured it would be.

This may sound contradictory considering the last lesson but once I made the decision early on that I was going to push through any challenges and find a way to make this thing fly regardless of any setbacks the rest was just the doing.

**This is something that continues to be true….ANY time I truly decide I want something…it happens.**

I was SO called to launch this program and my instincts were proving to be right every step of the way and the way forward seemed effortless, I just KNEW which step to take next every step of the way.

The biggest battle I’d fought in the past (and again more recently) was the one I fought with myself, this is probably a revelation to anyone who knows me (my mum was floored) but I’m as filled with self-doubt and second guessing as the next person, I’ve just gotten better at choosing where I send my mind.

I could have given in to the fear and self-doubt that was holding me back around Sydney but I chose to DECIDE to go ahead and figure shit out along the way….like I always have!

When I first launched my recurring thought theme went something like this… “you came SOOO close last time and you whimped out, you tasted success on a grand scale then you ran scared when you told yourself you couldn’t do it again..THAT is not happening again, THAT is not an option this time round. You’re seeing this through to the end. You’ve got this, you can do it, just do it”.

And with that commitment the road opened up, I think I do look back over my shoulder with rose coloured glasses at that first launch because it seemed like a dream to bring to fruition although I’m sure there were many challenges along the way.

LESSON 4 – Confidence is your best growth strategy.

Whatever space you want to claim as your Zone of Genius (your sweetspot) you need to OWN IT!!

If you don’t believe you can sell your offering or deliver it with excellence no-one else will either.

I had run a small group 5 month program in my last business but had never run anything over 12 months before, I had a very clear strategy for the program but I hadn’t DONE IT yet.

BUT I was 100% confident I could and I was 100% confident I could sell it.

I know for sure that had I gone in with anything less than 100% confidence I would have failed.

The success of that launch hinged entirely on how confident I was that I could make it work and deliver on promise.

Sydney was the same, sure I stuffed around and made a mess in my head but I did the work to get myself feeling 100% confident I could pull it off, made the decision to go ahead and then continued to feed my confidence every day so that when I ran my events I owned it.

Had I gone to Sydney a whimpering mess of self-doubt the outcome would have been very, very different.

If you’re lacking confidence your job right now is to do whatever it takes to get yourself to a place of 100% confidence.

Look at your past and current successes.

Look back at why you figured this would work in the first place.

Look at others doing what you’re doing…if someone else is doing it successfully so can you.

Have confidence in yourself to push though any challenges and to find a way to figure shit out so you can move forward with the next step.

You have everything you need to make a success of whatever it is your doing, you just need to work out how to use gifts you’ve been given, this includes the ability to know your limitations and to outsource when you need to.

My biggest challenge is that I exceeded my own expectations decades ago and so every step higher on the success ladder is unchartered waters for this little mind of mine, when you leave school at 14 and grow up in shitty circumstances with zero expectations you’ll do anything special it’s not a bar set very high.

Setting huge goals and achieving them is normal practice for me but when I achieve I have this weird mix of “I knew I could do it” Versus “I can’t believe I just did that!”, the part that had been winning was “I can’t believe I just did that” which lead to thoughts of “So I probably can’t do it again”.

My biggest personal lesson has been opening up and really allowing myself to see the possibility before me and to believe that I have as good a chance as anyone to succeed, in fact a better chance because I need it more, I want it more, it means more to me and I know from experience now that I can have anything I want in this life once I figure out how to get it.

My take-away for you here is that awesome quote “feel the fear and do it anyway”.

We all have fears, we all have our own crap that holds us back, the trick is to fight and win the battle and to keep fighting and winning the battle.

You are destined for greatness, don’t let your crap win out and deny you of it.

LESSON 5 – The Biggie…..Oh…THIS is me doing it!

This is kind of a weird one and potentially something only I’ve experienced but here we go…

There have been many days where I’ve been sitting at my desk feeling the need to PUSH, to DO, to MAKE SHIT HAPPEN and I become frustrated when I don’t know what to do next.

Upon reflection I realise I’m doing it and there is nothing more, unless I want to create busy work.

When I’m launching my events I’m running ads, keeping an eye on my feed and messages to answer any questions that come up, tweak ads if I need to, I’m still doing podcast interviews, blogging, running my newsletter, hanging out in Facebook groups and making a noise, following up old enquires etc etc etc

THAT is me doing it….this is the goal achievement process in action…it’s happening.

It’s at this point that I realise I need to relax and trust the process, the strategy, the fact that this worked last time and the time before that.

Then there’s the white knuckle fear of stretching myself, diving in then having to figure out a way to make it work.

These are the times I ask myself “what the fuck were you thinking???” and “why did I do this to myself???”.

Then I remember that THIS is also the goal achievement process in action.

It’s scary and painful and uncomfortable and riddled with fear and anxiety but this is the way big goals get met.

This is part of the bigass scary goal getting process.

I catch myself in these moments and then remind myself I need to start to get excited because any time I’ve achieved anything HUGE in my life it has been preceded with these feelings.

I remind myself “oh yeah, this is me doing epic shit, this is what it feels like, payday is just around the corner”.

Every time it seems the world is conspiring to make my life difficult when I’m trying to achieve something great is a reminder that the breakthroughs follow the (near) breakdowns, this is The Big U testing you…how bad do you want it?? How bad do you REALLY want it??

Birthing a bigass goal is just like birthing a baby, messy, painful, scary and something you’re never really 100% prepared for BUT the reward is so worth it.

Don’t be scared of feeling all of those emotions that make us anxious, instead acknowledge them for what they are…they’re growing pains, they’re necessary and part of the deal when it comes to massive growth.

I love the quote “If you can conceive it and believe it you CAN achieve it”. I totally believe that, I don’t believe that we can conceive of an idea without innately knowing we can have it.

Be still, listen to your gut and be guided by the next step.

Now my dear…go forth and conquer!!

Michelle xo

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Why it took me a decade to make money from coaching.

Why it took me a decade to make money from coaching.

Why it took me over a decade to make any real money in my coaching business…..

If you’re fed up with feeling like a failure in your coaching business then PLEASE read on, you’re about to feel a whole lot better as I share with you why it took me over a decade to make any decent money from coaching.

I began my coaching career filled with optimism.

I gained my coaching certification back in the late 90’s (after having coached since 1991) and went hell for leather making my mark on the coaching world.

I became Regional Manager for Results Coaching Systems, I spoke at their events (and my own), became head of way too many business networking groups, attended course after course and even had a regular column in the local newspaper where I went all Tony Robins on the local peeps.

I hustled my little ass off for a very long time.

I built a respectable profile and was seen to be “successful”.

Hell I LOOKED successful from every angle.

LESSON.1: Despite not experiencing any real financial success this approach did put me on the map and forced me to grow and expand rapidly as a coach and this set the tone for my career that carries through even today.

But I never made any real money.

Sure I’d pick up regular clients and organisations would pay me to deliver a workshop here and there but my coaching income was precarious at best.

Horrendous at worst.

Thankfully I always had my Martial Arts & Fitness businesses to save my ass and time after time after I had to resort back to these skills even though my desire was to coach.

I was a good coach, way better than many of counterparts (who seemed to be doing ok) but I wasn’t making any real money from the work I felt I was called to do.

LESSON 2: I have NEVER put all of my eggs in one basket. I like to think I’m hard wired for risk but my risks are calculated, I’ve always been aware that a struggling coach reeks of desperation and I needed to feel successful in the area’s I wanted to move into in order to be successful in it. If this meant earning money somewhere else so I could feel successful financially that’s what I did, I knew that by me being broke and desperate I was going to repel clients like nobody’s business.

Looking back I was half-assing it most of the time.

Sure I looked the part and had the skills and was president of this and founder of that but my offerings were hit and miss, in fact half the time I had no idea what it was I was selling!!

I can remember spending $4,500 on a very “pretty” website; I’d agonized over it’s beautiful design and carefully crafted my “About Me” page and when it went live I eagerly anticipated the clients that would flock to my inbox.

I mean back in the last 1990’s half the coaches I knew didn’t even HAVE a website and remember MySpace was a year ahead of Facebook and none of us knew how to use either one of them let alone fully comprehend the role Facebook would play in the building of our businesses.

Tragically clients did NOT flock to my inbox and it was with mounting horror that I realised I’d have to find the money elsewhere to pay for my beautiful (but useless) website as the clients I’d hoped for refused to materialise.

I had a beautiful looking website but no strategy for promoting it.

I was head of every business group going round but I never asked for the sale.

I was an early adopter but when I got it (whatever it was) I had no idea what to do with it!

I was half-assing it and my income reflected this.

LESSON 3: Busy work and looking the part will only take you so far, stepping outside your comfort zone and really, REALLY going for it is when the rubber meets the road. Gazing at your navel, habitual “planning” and making things pretty is NOT the real work, getting your ass in front of your potential clients and securing contracts is the work you must do and you must do it often.

I sold the farm and invested in myself and in my business.

Straight out of my coaching certification I employed a coach and man was my ass whipped into shape.

I’d been talking about running an event (an information evening) for weeks but was procrastinating all over myself. I left the first session with my coach having committed to a date for my upcoming event and it was on like donkey kong!

Not only did I have to fill an event but I’d have to get up and SPEAK in front of a room filled with strangers, something I had an inkling I would be ok at but it scared the pants off me back then.

This was a Quantum Leap for me and my business, I loved speaking, I was good at it (both revelations) and I picked up a bunch of clients.

LESSON 4: This was a biggie!!!! I cannot believe how much easier life became when I got myself a coach, all of a sudden I went from being a solo-preneur randomly banging away alone in my office to a business woman with a partner in crime, I became someone with a solid strategy that my coach agreed was the way forward…no more second guessing. Coaching cut’s your time, money and energy wastage in half…probably more.

There were many Quantum Leaps…followed by plateaus.

Coaching works, no two ways about it, so every year I’d hire a new coach or enroll in a new program to keep me moving forward.

I gained momentum and elevated but it never really stuck, it’s taken me till now to realize why that was.

It never stuck because no-one bothered to ask me what lit me up, what I was driven to do, no-one helped me truly understand what my gifts were.

And even if they had no-one was there to tell me my branding looked like balls or was a confusing mess.

No-one told me the truth.

So I went along my merry way thinking I was doing everything right….and failing.

Where is there to go from there?

If you’re doing all the right things but you’re still failing what is there to do?

Well for me the thing to do was launch another fitness or martial arts related business and put my coaching on hold…again!

LESSONS 4 & 5: This one’s a doozy!! The first lesson was that a coach will tell you the truth because they are NOT invested in keeping you happy, they’re invested in RESULTS, a coach is not going to blow sunshine up your butt to make you feel good about yourself, if your idea sucks you’ll hear about it, if your approach sucks, you’ll hear about that too. Too many times I’ve had “nodders” in my life…people too scared to tell me my idea sucked so they sat there nodding away telling me I was awesome. Many hours and many dollars, along with many head bangs on the wall, would have been saved had I gone to the right source when I floated an idea. A coach is that source. The other lesson is my all time favourite and this is NOT to jump from one bright shiny idea to another chasing success, instead pick an idea and follow that sucker through till the very end. Tweak, adjust, overhaul..do what you must to get it to work but do not change direction once you’ve invested in the idea.

But EVERY single investment was worth it.

It was my first coach who scared the crap out of me and made to do what I said I was going to do that resulted in me seeing what I was capable of.

Another coach who was onto me and wouldn’t let me get away with the excuses and random changes in direction and helped me to see this was a pattern.

Even the bad coaches helped prove that “hell if they can do this and make money I’m going to be ok”.

The KPI program I completed that didn’t result in anything tangible (except a book I wrote & published that had no relevance AT ALL to my business) except for an awakening around how small I’d actually been playing and the making of some fabulous contacts.

Then there were the coaches who tried to push me in one direction only serving to strengthen my resolve to go in another.

The 10’s of $1,000’s of dollars worth of online programs I purchased and completed but 1 hours work because it was all I needed.

LESSON .6: Coaching cuts your wasted time, energy and $$$ in half (at least and yes I know I covered this already!). Regardless of any actual financial ROI I’ve never walked away from a program or coaching relationship empty handed, there is always something to be gained. The clearer you are about what you want from a coaching relationship or program the more you’ll get from it.

Those Investments Changed EVERYTHING.

Sure it took me a decade but boy have I learned a lot along the way and I absorbed every single morsel.

That’s what makes me such a good coach and mentor today, without the first hand knowledge and experiences I’d be too far removed from where my clients are starting from and also from what’s possible for them.

My childhood of domestic violence and sexual abuse shaped me to be the woman I’m proud to be today just as the trails and tribulations of working my ass off and failing regularly as I built my coaching business is what makes me the coach and mentor I’m proud to be today.

We all have such life experience to bring into our work and this is why no two coaches are alike.

LESSON 7: Know yourself…REALLY know yourself. Become intimate with your strengths and work them. The way I see it I have zero competition because there is only one me…no-one does me better than ME. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s ok, you’re probably not mine either. But for the women who follow me and love what I stand for…the one’s who get me…I’m the only coach for them. It’s the same for you. Tweet It: Know your strengths, know how to market them and then build your business around them. 

Every single experience you’ve had is shaping you right now.

The good, the bad and the ugly.

Every. Single. Experience.

Each one makes you unique and wise and PERFECT to lead a tribe who need you.

Wear your struggles as a badge of honour, the struggle is a rite of passage and the bigger the struggle the bigger the badge my dear.

LESSON 8: Every single experience shapes us to become better at what we do and every single experience moulds us into the perfect coach for our tribe.

So then I started to make some decent money….a decade later!
I’ve been married 3 times so it’s safe to say I’m a slow learner when it comes to certain things and building a successful coaching business was one of those things (fly a plane? no problem, strip an engine, put it back together and get it to run? easy!..marriage? business? not so much!!).

Through my copious amounts of learning and experience I discovered the power of Niche (thank you Seth, I truly do love your guts) and the power of the lead magnet (not sure where I discovered this little gem) and the power of going pro (thanks Marie Forleo, you my girl) and doing things properly.

Pulling that all together I launched my Honourable Martial Arts Entrepreneur brand in 2012 and the rest is pretty much history.

I targeted my Niche, created a sales funnel, a kickass lead magnet and a product offering that made sense and I was on my way.

I replicated that process with even greater success when I launched The Art Of Kicking Ass Elegantly at the end of 2014 with a $25k Signature Offering that really put me on the map and it afforded me the freedom to work less (far less) doing work I absolutely adore with women I adore…freedom I still enjoy today.

LESSON 9: You can’t sell big ticket items without a solid system for generating leads and a highly polished and profesh brand.

It doesn’t need to take you a decade.

Often we’re the ones hindering our own success, in fact often we ARE the ONE thing hindering our success.

We do this when we fail to let go of what isn’t working.

When we think we can do it all on our own (and can’t).

When we steadfastly hang on to our excuses.

When we fail to learn from our mistakes and continue to repeat them.

My passion for my high-ticket programs stems from knowing that I’m giving each of my clients what I so desperately needed when I was in the struggle and needed to find a way to cut through.

I’m passionate about my programs because I know what success does for a woman who’s been struggling.

It changes her at her core and that change is good…very good and I consider it an honour to be a part of that.

LESSON 10: When we get out of our own way, enlist help and get serious about success a major shift occurs and the success you’ve been chasing becomes a reality instead of a far off wish. No woman is an island, we all need a coach in our corner.

So here’s what you should do now.

So…are you ready to get serious about your success?

Are you perhaps ready to take a step or two backwards so you can move forwards again…better, faster, more succesfully?

Are you ready to get help?

If you’re truly ready to step up, get out of your own way and push yourself further than you can ever get on your own then let’s team up so I can help you finally begin to make the type of money you deserve to be making from the work you love.


Michelle xx

Success Is Messy

Success Is Messy

Success Is Messy….


A little while ago I bumped into a past colleague of mine, a real blast from the past, and a little while later we met up for coffee and a chat.

The conversation was fantastic, the sort that two battle hardened entrepreneurs LOVE to have as we shared our individual journeys over the past 6 or 7 years since we’d been in touch.

It was interesting and at the same time familiar to hear how after many years of changing tack and going off on tangents she had arrived at EXACTLY where she is most powerful in business.

I’ve done the same thing myself.

In fact I have yet to meet a coach who 10 years down the track is doing the thing they started out doing all those years ago.

You see success is messy and it’s more than ok to make the mother of all messes along the way….in fact…it’s a right of passage to make messes along the way because this is what brings us something that money can’t buy…EXPERIENCE.

As my colleague and I chatted about the detours we took and the messes we made along the way we both acknowledged that this is what experience is made of and that every single experience piles on top of the one before it to create a mountain of knowledge and experience that is priceless.

No course on earth will ever teach you the same resilience you find through having to repeatedly pick yourself up and dust yourself off for another round.

My colleague said “we are still here, we worked through it, we figured it out and we didn’t stop when it got too hard”.

She was right, many people we know have fallen by the wayside, have taken jobs and abandoned their entrepreneurial dreams in favour of safety (and sanity no doubt!).

For some this is the perfect choice but those of us with entrepreneurial blood running through our veins that can never be a viable option and we will fight on UNTIL….until we achieve what we’re after.

Myself, along with many of my fellow coaches, have suffered lean times, experienced set backs, hit brick walls we thought we couldn’t get through and have experienced epic failures but never, ever did we want to quit.

We head back to the drawing board, take time to lick our wounds and come out bigger and better than ever before and full of optimism.

We support one another, we lift each other up and utter the phrase “we’ve all been THERE!!” more than once (and probably will again).

We’ve ALL made a mess at some point (you can create success without it), we’ve all had to lick our wounds and start again and none of us would trade it for quids.

So when you’re thinking “this is a mess” know you are doing it right!

Have faith that this is simply a big messy question you need to figure out the answer too.

Back yourself that you can and will find that answer….that you WILL figure it out and that when you do you will once again be picked up on a wave of momentum that will carry you for weeks if not months or years.

So if you want success…if you want to REALLY, ABSOLUTELY, FOR SURE want to live the life of a successful coach and entrepreneurial …. roll your sleeves up, foster your conviction to make stuff happen and prepare to make a mess……and know that success (along with pride and fulfilment) will be waiting for you at the other end.

In the meantime come and join me in my free community SECRET COACHES BUSINESS and let’s hang out.

I’ll see you there.

M x

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