It’s ok to ruffle a few feathers…

It’s ok to ruffle a few feathers…

One of the MANY ways women like to hold themselves back from playing big is the fear of “upsetting” other people.

The fear of treading on toes.

The concern that what they TRULY want to do in their business appears too similar to what someone else is doing, so they don’t want to be seen to be “copying”.

Then there’s the fear of overtaking their peers or past mentors and feeling just a little “too big for their boots”.

Let’s just clear a few things up, shall we?

Who’s living this life of yours???

Remind me…who is it who gets to make the rules of your life??

Oh yeah….that’s right…YOU DO!!

I’m NEVER a fan of a copycat, I think it is the laziest, most tragic way you can go about business, BUT there are soooo many different business ideas and models that ARE the same….UNTL you put your unique spin on them.

I’ve had numerous clients come to me who want to move into coaching because they’ve been at the pinnacle of success in their industry, hired a coach, and after that experience, realise they’d make a great coach too.

They agonise over the fact that they think (often without discussion) that the coach they just worked with will think they’re copying them and that they’d be treading on their toes.

Last time I looked, coaching is, in fact, a whole INDUSTRY….not something any one person claims ownership over.

If you think you’ll make a great coach, then you need to go for it.

Of course, you’re not going to copycat your coaches’ IP or branding or take their clients because that would be icky….but this is YOUR life, YOUR business, and YOU get to choose.

Prepare to outgrow a mentor or your peers and expect to be unfriended.

I’ve had lots of people unfriend me over the years because I’ve triggered insecurities or feelings of lack, and you know what…that’s totally ok….if they can’t handle watching my success and it brings stuff up for them I get it…no harm, no foul.

Some people are uncomfortable with the growth of others because they think it’s a reflection on them…it isn’t…everyone is on their own path and you have every right to march steadily along ANY path you choose.

I’ve had clients say they don’t want to offer VIP Days (for example) because I offered them….my response…GO FOR IT…don’t copy the way I do it, put your own spin on it…do it YOUR way, with your own flavour and I’ll be cheering you from the sidelines.

Last time I checked, I didn’t have the licence on VIP Days!

If you do think you’re about to copycat someone, sit with it, ask yourself if this is a real or imagined fear.

If it’s real, don’t do it….nothing will ever be as important as the ability to sleep at night knowing you haven’t crossed a line.

But if this “thing” you want to move forward with is being done by many, you have every right to stake your claim and do it your way.

BETTER in fact.

It’s not your job to ensure your success is CONVENIENT or COMFORTABLE for those around you.

It’s your job to do what you’re called to do…that nagging feeling of being called to do something you’re NOT doing is never going away…so you might as well get on with it.

I am one of the kindest, most considerate women you’ll ever meet, and I am always mindful of the impact of my actions on others…especially those I love and respect, but this is a two-way street.

Anyone who knows and loves me knows I have a deep and burning desire to succeed beyond normal expectations, and they also know I’d never tread on anyone’s toes willingly.

If people fail to see this, then there isn’t much I (or you) can do about that….we can’t let our fear of upsetting people or not being liked hold us back.

If someone is holding you back because they fear how your growth will impact or reflect on them, then this is an issue THEY need to deal with.

And you need to remain focused on doing what you need to do to feel fulfilled, successful and aligned.

Your life.

YOUR rules.

If you can truly satisfy yourself that you’re doing the right thing then get ok with ruffling a few feathers and pissing a few people off and remain focused on your end game…because only YOU get to live this life of
yours.

M xox

PS…walking this path solo can be rough. If you’d like to become part of a group of women supporting women, check out my mastermind, and if you think it’s a good fit for you, I encourage you to apply.
https://www.michellehext.com/mastermind/

M x